Ok... I need the help of my readers on this one...

Ok... so here's the situation...

Since as far as I can remember being into boys, I've had a secret crush on my best friend. We'd always hang out and do guy things... climb fences, have water balloon fights, go into the woods behind my house and explore... you know.. "manly" things.

As we got older and was in high school, we maintained our friendship. He was always the hottie that everyone wanted to date, so he's always have some hot girl attached to him, so it was no contest that he was straight. There had been a few times that he'd say things to me that was very misleading, but I always played it cool and brushed it off to deter them from realizing I was gay. I honestly thought that sometimes he'd do it to test me and possibly out me, so I was always precautions with him.

Well as time went on and we graduated, we didn't necessarily go our separate ways, but we did drift apart. We maintained very little contact and it turns out he went through a rough year with drugs and whatnot. We reconnected a few times, but it was either for his birthday or for mine, nothing more. His mom was happy to see me around b/c I stay away from drugs and anything of the like and she was hoping I would be a good influence on him.

Anyway... his birthday is in February and that was the last time I saw him... back in 2009. He was getting his shit back together and trying really hard to land a job.

Well for the new year, I believe I texted him in one of my mass texts and he replied. He seemed excited to hear from me and we had decided to hang out last Sunday. Well, of course, that fell through so I had made dinner plans with my friends for tonight and decided to ask him to come, which he did.

I was really happy that he came and I was happy that we finally got to hang out. I was quite pleased to see that he was looking finer than ever! MMMMmmm...... if only he was my dessert! ha!!

So here's the deal ... a while back, my co-worker at the time (who is now one of my besties) and I decided to have a quick lunch at Applebee's. When we got there, our waitress turned out to be one of these girls that I had graduated with. She took our order and tended to the tables she was working. When she finally got a chance, she came and sat down with us and we quickly caught up.

She had asked me if I kept in contact with anyone from high school and I rattled off a few names...when I came to his, she was like... "ohh.. my... godd!!!... he is such a tool! do you know he's bi?"

Right away, I was like "Oh thank heaven... I mean WHAT!?!?" ... so she explained to me that how she was hanging out with him at some party and how he blatantly said that he was bisexual.

So now... I'm putting things together... all those times back in school... were they tests? And then today, I learn that he works in the city and he texts me "I work for this fashion company in the city. I'm surrounded by gay guys and hot girls... what else is better than that?"

I ask him what he does there and he tells me he photographs hang bags and then photoshops them for the ads. Then he shows me these mannequins that he has to dress and photograph as well.

Anyway... tonight when we were at dinner, he was sitting next to me and at one point he puts his hand on my lap and is stroking my leg... so of course I took the straight and cowardly route and was like .. dude! So he stopped and just chuckled.

I seriously want to approach him one day and just be like... so... I heard you're bi... is it true.. cause I'm ok with that... but I am too chicken to just do that...

So... with all that said... I need your help... should I just confront him and be for real or do you think it's a trap? I honestly trust him and I really don't think he'd out me if I'm wrong, but then again... there is the possibility that he may... What do I do!?

One one hand, I have the risk of outing myself if I'm wrong and on the other, I have the potential of fulfilling a childhood dream to suck my bestie off...help!!