So did anyone catch this Monday's episode of Gossip Girl? I seriously cried! I have to say that it kind of hit home.
I am going next week on a small vacation and will be returning on December 1st. Where am I going? I am going to a remote location, where Internet is hard to find and where I will be able to regain some balance in my life, although it's a family vacation.
Anyway, with that said, I decided to begin the decorating for the holidays. I normally bring out everything Christmas on Black Friday, but since I'm not going to be here and since I won't have the weekend to decorate, I decided that instead of rushing through it all when I get back and not being able to really enjoy it, I am going to get a head start and put up my tree. So I did, along with our village. There is still a lot more to do, like our 2nd tree, yeah, we have two, as well as the outside, but it's a start.
So tonight, as I hung all my ornaments from since I was a baby on my tree, I began thinking of all the good times. I had picked up my niece from school and we put on The Polar Express (my favorite Christmas movie ever!) and began hanging ornaments together. My niece was so amazed at some of them and now that she's older, I can tell her the stories behind them and she can appreciate them.
If you haven't realized in my past 124 posts... I am somewhat of a family man. The precious time that I had just spent with my niece, trimming my tree, meant so much to me.
So anyway... After my niece left, my mom and dad resided in their beds, and I decided to attempt to catch up on my shows on the DVR before I left for my vacation. I had started Gossip Girl and the entire show, for those who missed it, was about being thankful for everything in life ... friends, family, etc.
Well the fact that Vanessa and Chuck could come together to save Nate, who has been not the best of friends with either of them, just amazes me. It truly shows the meaning of true friendship. The fact that through everything, Jenny was able to come back home, shows the true meaning of family. You can always fall back on family.
So as I sat in my den and my tree and village was lit up and I was watching the show, I began to cry... why? Well if you had read in some of my previous posts, there was a lot of
drama in my family. Between a few cousins and my parents and brother-in-law ... I began to think that nothing is ever going to be the same.
My cousin and his wife and son (who I consider to be my nephew) won't be showing up for Christmas this year. Why? Because they lied and my mother wants
nothing to do with them. In fact, she's shipping a gift for their son and only their son because he's the innocent one. Mind you, they live about 3 towns over.
My brother-in-law probably won't be coming along for our normal Christmas festivities because he disrespected my parents at their house, yet again, and my parents want an apology and he's too damn proud to do it. Meanwhile, when it comes down to it, my parents are
ALWAYS there for them. So I guess it will be just my sister and niece, by themselves, yet again for another Christmas.
My other cousin, who was planning on killing herself, has found a sugardaddy to take care of her and her kids (of which I can gather she doesn't pay much attention to). They would normally come down from Jersey (or is it up?) and spend Christmas eve with us, but I don't see her doing it this year for some reason.
I decided to e-mail my three cousins on Facebook the other day, asking if they'd come and spend the holidays with us and I got two unsures and one that basically said, "This is the first time I'm getting Christmas off in a while and I don't want to spend the time traveling, so don't count on me coming." Mind you, of the three, I used to be so close to her. Now she's basically telling me that she doesn't want to come and stay with me? WTF?
Of course, after my ephiphany with regards to my family, I then began to think about friendship. I seriously thought long and hard about the situation that Nate was in. There was a need for intervention and two people, who dislike each other, came together for the benefit of their friend, although they were all on bumpy roads. I began to wonder that if I had the need for an intervention, who would come to my rescue and of course I came to the conclusion that I couldn't name a person.
I have, what I consider to be, a lot of acquantiences, not friendships. People come and go through my life, like a revolving door. In fact, kinda funny, I was friends with this group of people. They just stopped calling me completely. When I attempted to find out what happened, they said that they had new friends from school and they wanted to avoid the drama that their current friends brought to them.
Ok, so I know I can be a queen at times, but in God's honest truth, I never had any dramatic encounters with any one of them. So I took the high road, accepted it and never called anyone of them again. Now recently, I got text messages from one of them. Then another texted me and invited me to their annual halloween party, like 2 days before. Then another texted me saying how we need to hang out and that they miss me. I'm like, WHAT THE FUCK!? HELL NO! I'm not a roll of Bounty that you can take a piece, use it and throw it away and then go back again.. hellz no!!
I now have a new group of friends which consist of a 23 year old male, 19 year old female, and a 13 year old boy and 14 year old girl, who are siblings. As strange as it sounds, it works. I feel like their big brother and they love it because they get to hang out with older kids and they're included. The 23 year old actually just became a part of our little group and he's a really cool guy so far!
Well anyway, after GG, I watched the past three days of Ellen and laughed my ass off, so I guess I feel a little bit better.
So much has changed in the past 6 years and I thought I was one to adapt to change, but I guess I'm not. I cry and I feel pain, but at the end of the day, there is nothing you can do but accept it.