30 Days

So I don't know if anyone has seen the show "30 Days" on FX or not, but let me just tell you... AMAZING!

The one episode that I've seen has got me hooked! It just so happens that the episode that I caught was about these two men, a gay couple, who had adopted 4 boys, and a traditional woman, who believes that gays shouldn't raise children.

Let me just say... what an episode! I was in tears at the end of it!

So to debrief you on the show... they basically find two opposites and move them in together for 30 days and then we see if their opinions or point of views change at the end of the show.

Well basically this woman, raised on absolute tradition, feels that same-sex couples should not be able to raise children. She strongly feels that a child should have a "mommy/daddy" environment to grow up in. She was shipped over to Ann Arbor, where these two successful gay men have a home and decided to adopt 4 boys. They welcomed her in with open arms and she was, for the most part, good.

She spent days where they made her fight for the complete opposite thing of her beliefs. She admitted that the two guys were wonderful people, but she could not let go to her belief that children need a "normal" environment. She even met with two different adults who were both adopted by gay couples. The adults drove her to their old place in the literal ghetto, which was their home for quite some time. One had their mother shot in front of him and then he had to move into the broken down foster center, where he had lived until his gay parents adopted him.

They tried to show her that whether, black, white, asian, straight, or gay, the fact that their lives were saved, thanks to those kind couples, their lives are better. Although they showed her crying when she saw the living conditions, she agreed that it is great that their parents did what they did, but she still held on to her belief.

At the end of it, the last day, the couple and the woman had a last one-on-one and she still wouldn't let go.

I absolutely understand that this belief is what she was raised to believe, but maybe just admitting that it's not such a "bad" thing, would've been nice. She admitted that they're good people, but the fact that they should have the right to adopt children was still a big no for her.

I also forgot to mention that there is an uprising lately in which people are trying to LEGALLY ban same-sex couples from adopting. The couple on the show were obviously working against that.

Now as far as I'm concerned... this is America, correct? "Home of the FREE..." -- Why is this an issue? Why is your life choice an issue?

Whether you "chose" to be gay, straight, or bisexual ... that shouldn't be looked down on. I quoted the word chose since it is said that some people don't choose, but either way... this is something that should not be an issue.

Funny thing... I just finally watched Hairspray... the new one... by the way, I TOTALLY LOVED! -- anyway... the storyline in the movie/play ... blacks or "negros" fighting for equality and integration... that reminds me of today's battle.

As far as I'm concerned, neither should've ever been a battle. American is the LARGEST melting pot of people worldwide. Who is it of those law makers to decide that one way is proper versus another? Although that catholicism is the major religion of America... some beg to differ... so be it ... who is it for anyone to say that "catholicism" is the main religion? I've seen on the news about things like "it's an abonimation to our religion" ... "man and man or woman and woman cannot get married in this church" --- Says who?

Anyway... sorry for rambling. This one kind of hit close to home. Although I'm closeted at the moment, I do hope to muster up the confidence to announce my choice of lifestyle to my overly traditional family and eventually find the perfect guy, MARRY him and ADOPT children of my own. Since I was little and before I knew about gay or straight or penis or vagina ... I saw the commercials where the children who were less fortunate than me are on TV and people are begging for help to save them. I ALWAYS knew that I wanted to be a part of resucing a child from those places and to put them into a safe and loving home, one in which I hope to eventually have.

So either way, whether I become one of those "straigt" married men or an actual happily married gay man... either way, I want to know that my option to adopt is one in which I can have for as long as I live....